A "Do Good" Marriage

What would your life feel like if your focus at home was to “do good?” What would your marriage feel like if your desire was to do good to one another? I’m guessing it is a rare occasion when our ambition is to “do bad” but when we get swept away in the busyness of life sometimes we find ourselves in survival mode and our focus is not focused at all! It is not our intention to bring harm, but if we lose our focus and drive to “do good” that is the only alternative. In relationships, neutral = bad. You cannot push your partner to the back burner for very long before your relationship feels the hit.

There are so many things that can be the cause of our failure to “do good” in our marriage relationships. Most of the time, we don’t even see them creeping in, and if we do see the warnings, we don’t take the time to resolve it because we are too mad, too hurt, or too busy. Before we know it there is a giant, painful wedge between us. There is only one way out of that mess, and that is to allow God to reset your heart to love unconditionally, reset your mind to see things from a healthier perspective (and not be defensive) as He brings healing and restoration. And finally, be committed to “doing good” at home, where it matters most.

It is highly likely that your children will look for someone who treats them as the two of you treat each other. If that scares you a little, you are not alone. We are all a work in progress, but if you want to grow into something that is amazing, you have to change the way you think about marriage. Be a giver, not a taker. Be a lover, not a hater. Be completely unselfish and watch the transformation take place.

 “God, rescue us from the mindset of the world and give us back the heart you created in us – the heart to love like you. Remind us that the most important place to demonstrate Your love is in our home, the training ground for Your Ambassadors to the world.”

"Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, 

especially to those who belong to the family of believers."  

Galatians 6:10