Teach Them To Give

For many parents, the change in the weather means our thoughts begin to lean toward the Christmas season and making it a magical time for the kids. Sadly, in our culture, the first thing we think of is the gifts we will buy for our kids who already have so much more than the majority of children of the world and seldom care enough about what they have to make sure it is put away properly at the end of the day.

We all want to give great things to our kids. What a difference it would make if our focus was not on tangible things that they can hold in their hands, but the intangibles that they can hold in their hearts. Here are a few ideas:

• ·         Give them focused time. They are hearing from their teachers to practice whole body listening. Model that as you listen to them. Eyes on them, body turned toward them, nodding, responding, smiling. 
• ·         Give them unconditional love. Allowing a child to see their parents love each other unconditionally is one of the best examples they can follow as they grow into adulthood. If you love them well, without loving your spouse well what they will learn is a performance based love
• ·         Give them laughter. Share a joke of the day or a funny video and laugh together.
• ·         Give them compassion. Use the internet to open their eyes to the needs in the world around them. Sheltering them perpetuates the greed and entitlement so common in our society. Let them visualize the disparity between the standard of living of Americans and the rest of the world.
• ·         Give them responsibility by working alongside them as you teach them to take ownership of their belonging.
• ·         Give them values by explaining that we, as God followers, believe and live as we do because we are commanded to be like Jesus.
• ·         Give them generosity by giving them opportunities to share with others who have needs greater than our own.
• ·         Give them music. Christian CDs are a great way to teach what you believe. Invest in a children’s CD that you can play in the car and sing together… over and over and over… If you need a suggestion, just ask!
• ·         Give them mentors. If it is true that it takes a village to raise a child, who are the adults you are allowing to pour into your kids? Are they godly people teaching godly values? Are your kids regularly exposed to those who follow Jesus and value the teaching of His Word?

Our own eyes have been trained to look at the “Jones’” next door and try to keep in step with what they have. This year for Christmas give your kids the eyes of Jesus so they can see a broadened vision of the world. Help them to see all they have and be grateful. Value them enough to teach them to be givers, not takers and show them how to “prefer one another in love,” “honor others above ourselves,” “do to others as we would have them do to us.”  Point them to the beauty around them that their Creator has provided and never stop looking for ways to love them that require no wrapping paper…. And let me be the first to wish you a Merry Christmas!

"For I was hungry, while you had all you needed.  I was thirsty, but you drank bottled water. I was a stranger, and you wanted me deported. I needed clothes, but you wanted more clothes, I was sick, and you pointed out the behaviors that led to my sickness. I was in prison, and you said I was getting what I deserved."  

Matthew 25:42-32 RESV (Richard E. Stearns Version)