Blessing 101

We are blessed to bless. Our lives are not filled with joy so we can hoard it. Our cupboards are not full so we can be gluttons. Our gas tank isn’t full so we can stay home. Our heart isn’t kind so we can savor it. Grace hasn’t bathed us so we can gloat over our good fortune. We are blessed with all kinds of blessings on a regular basis, not so that we can gather them into the museum in our heart, but so that we can, in turn, bless others. Mark Batterson says, “The way we turn a blessing into a double blessing is by flipping the blessing. In other words, we get a blessing by giving a blessing. That is counter-intuitive and counter-cultural, but that is the miracle. And you will be a bigger blessing to more people because of it.”

When was the last time you called a family meeting to discuss how you might bless another person… another family?  With Thanksgiving creeping up on us, what a beautiful time to teach the kids what a blessing is and our responsibility to carry blessings to others as ambassadors of Jesus. How do you start? I was listening to Brian Dixon on a podcast the other day. He has written a book called, Start With Your People. On the podcast he talked about the importance of starting whatever passion, mission, business or blessing that you have been called to, with the people closest to you. If you are busy blessing the world around you, your kids will not learn well, unless they also see it happening under your own roof.

Let me caution you, however, because there is a difference between blessing your kids and spoiling them. One way teaches them to be a blessing and the other teaches them to be entitled… and nobody wants that! Giving them what they want, when they want it, no matter how inconvenient it is or how tired you are sends the direct message that they are more important than you. You have just showed respect the door and it is on its way out!

When you do something kind for someone, include them. “I know Daddy has been really working hard this week so let’s bless him by making our home a peaceful place for him and have all our chores done before he gets home.” “Mommy isn’t feeling well, let’s clean up the kitchen together and be a blessing to her so she can rest.” “Your sister is struggling with her math so let’s go pray with her so she can calm down and work through it. Wouldn’t that be a great blessing?” “Grandpa has a lot of leaves in his yard. Let’s be a blessing to him and go rake them.”

If your kids are older and the above suggestions are not going to work for them, just be a blessing to your family and your neighbors and co-workers. At dinner or in the car on the way home from practice you can tell them about it. “I got bless Ida today. I just felt like she is probably lonely since her husband died and so I took lunch to her and had a little visit while we ate. She was so glad for the company and it felt good to be a blessing to her, but I think I got more out of it than she did!” They don’t need to see you being a martyr and making huge sacrifices. That sends the opposite message from the joy of being a blessing.

Wives, be a blessing to your husband by seeing who they are, trusting them, honoring them in whatever manner brings joy. Husbands, be a blessing to your wives by listening and learning what brings them joy. Parents, be a blessing to your kids by giving them your attention and teaching them how to bless others, while saying NO to the self-centeredness that will end up eating them alive. Remember, Jesus himself said that it is more blessed to give than to receive. Live like you mean it!

"Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father..."

James 1:17

We are created in the image of a Giver, therefore, if we are not giving,  we are like a fish out of water  and will never realize the blessing that is ours for the taking.